It's not victim shaming to ask: "Did you take the necessary precautions?" The fact that the victim was operating with reckless abandon doesn't change the level of atrocity done to the victim, but it sure as fuck changes my level of sympathy for the victim. When a child runs toward a busy street the instinct of a parent is to scold the child because it doesn't understand the seriousness of its actions. Likewise when I see a woman walking around dressed in a way that provokes attention to herself in a sexual manner I want to call out to that woman and say: "Hey - small adult-child who was raised in a society that has sabotaged your sensibility as an intelligent human being - hey - you're in danger!" I'm not saying that the woman shouldn't be allowed to dress how she wants. Nor am I saying that she should have to worry about men's reactions. However, saying that the solution to the problem is to tell men that they should ...